Today Daniel Peeks and Bev Elliott join us for a conversation about relational traumas. In an intimate relationship, there are certain critical events which – although not necessarily recognized as damaging or traumatic at the time – a failure to heal that compromises trust and intimacy eventually exposes them to be relationally traumatic. An affair would be an obvious form of relational trauma. However, harsh or threatening words are spoken in the heat of anger, a failure to be physically or emotionally present for your spouse at a time of medical or emotional jeopardy or a sexual interaction occurring early in the relationship which one spouse experiences as coercive or forced could all be traumatic. And what one person or one couple experiences as traumatic may be very different from those experienced by another. On some level, both spouses may minimize the significance of these events, but they continue to come to the surface years and decades later. The wounding has gone deep and basic trust is broken. If you find yourself “stuck” on one of these events years after it happened or if you recognize some obstacle or wall blocking the level of trust and intimacy between you and your spouse, then I think you’re going to find today’s show to be very helpful.