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  • Recovering from Infidelity - Part 4

    Today Daniel Peeks joins us for the fourth installment of a 6 Part series on infidelity.   In today’s show, we continue our conversation about the restoration process as we address some critical steps for facilitating healing.  Because that injured spouse is in post traumatic distress, the focus of that healing is predominantly directed toward them.  Often, as a couple struggles toward reconciliation, they are both so raw - albeit with differing emotions and reactions - that a predictable self-perpetuating and highly destructive pattern can get triggered.  In today’s show, we want to articulate that pattern as we also offer a path out of it and toward the healing needed. 

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  • Recovering From Infidelity Part 3

    Today Stace Huff joins me for the third installment of a 6 Part series on infidelity.   In today’s show, we begin a discussion about the restoration process as we address some critical strategies for re-building trust.  Often, there are elements of this part of the recovery process that are somewhat counter-intuitive and can be very challenging for couples to lean into.  And yet, they are very important to accomplish.  So, if you or someone you know is trying to re-build their marriage after an affair has been exposed, I hope that you’ll listen to today’s show. 

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  • Recovering From Infidelity - Part 2

    Today Daniel Peeks and Melissa King join me for the second installment of a 6 Part series on infidelity.   In our last podcast, we tried to build the beginnings of a Biblical framework for thinking about recovering from infidelity.  In today’s show, we shift our focus toward providing some other categories for understanding the nature of infidelity and its impact on a marriage.  

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  • Recovering From Infidelity - Part 1

     Today Daniel Peeks and Stace Huff join me for the first installment of a 6 Part series on infidelity.   The impact of infidelity on a marriage relationship is far reaching and the recovery and reconciliation process is complicated and difficult.  However, when reconciliation can happen, there is no more beautiful human representation of the gospel than a couple who has not only survived an affair, but tasted of the deep experience of sacrifice, forgiveness and intimacy known by couples recovering from infidelity.  In today’s podcast, Daniel and Stace help me highlight some key biblical categories critical to the process of reconciliation after an affair has happened.    

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  • Social Media and Children

    Today Daniel Peeks and Melissa King join me for a conversation about children and social media.  I think that we tend to be somewhat polarized in our feelings about managing our children’s involvement with social media.  Either we demonize it and make every effort to cut them off from it.  Or, believing that we’re helpless as parents to manage its influence, we just surrender to it and let them have at it.  I hope that today’s show will give you a little bit of help in identifying the middle ground for your child and helping them manage it better.  

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  • Social Media and Children

    Today Daniel Peeks and Melissa King join me for a conversation about children and social media.  I think that we tend to be somewhat polarized in our feelings about managing our children’s involvement with social media.  Either we demonize it and make every effort to cut them off from it.  Or, believing that we’re helpless as parents to manage its influence, we just surrender to it and let them have at it.  I hope that today’s show will give you a little bit of help in identifying the middle ground for your child and helping them manage it better.  

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  • Own It

    Today Daniel Peeks and Mary Breshears join me for a conversation about the importance of owning your emotional experience.  All too often, we tend to avoid or talk ourselves out of unpleasant or negative emotions before we’ve adequately processed or expressed them.  In today’s show, we are going to talk about why we therapists make such a big deal out of emotion.  So, if you currently have feelings or some day hope to have feelings  ;-)  I think that you’re going to find today’s show helpful. 

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  • Assumptions

    Today Daniel Peeks and Bev Elliott join me for a conversation about assumptions.  We all know that its not a good idea to make assumptions.  The problem is that assumptions are sneaky and we often fail to recognize when we’re making them.  The very nature of emotional and relational learning is organized around the process of making assumptions - or anticipating what others might be thinking and feeling  and what they are about to do.  And at the core of that learning is an assumption that past experience is a good predictor for future experience.  Sometimes that true, but often its not… particularly in intimate relationships.  

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  • Grace and Obedience

    Today Melissa King and Sarah Collier join me for a conversation about grace and obedience.  The struggle to live fully in both grace and obedience is no easy or insignificant matter.  And, as today’s conversation will illustrate, losing your grounding on one side or the other can be associated with depression, insecurity, perfectionism and even addiction.   

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  • How to Complain Without Complaining

    Today Stace Huff joins us to talk about how to complain without complaining.  As Stace’s boss, I’m here to tell you that she’s is an expert at complaining… ;-)  but, seriously, she has some great ideas for couples on how to structure a complaint so you not only avoid provoking your spouse, but may even create an opportunity for intimacy and connection.  So, if you’re married and need a few pointers on how to file a formal complaint, I think that you’re going to find today’s show helpful.  

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