Everything listed under: Stace Huff

  • Understanding Emotion

    Today Stace Huff and Mary Breshears join me for a conversation about emotion. As a guy, I have to confess that I didn’t even know that I had a feeling – except for anger – until I was almost 30 years old. And it still took me another 10 years to figure out what to do with them. So, if you struggle with how to understand, process and manage your emotions – and don’t we all? - then I think you’re going to find today’s show to be very helpful.

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  • How NOT To Read Your Spouse's Mind

    Today Daniel Peeks and Stace Huff join me for a conversation about mind-reading in marriage. We know how much you hate it when your spouse presumes to know what you’re thinking and feeling during an argument… and sometimes they may be right… but more often they’re wrong. So, in today’s show Daniel and Stace offer some insights into how that happens, why its almost always destructive and how you can learn NOT to read your spouse’s mind. If you’re married and you’re human, I know that you’re going to find today’s conversation helpful.

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  • 2018 New Year's Resolutions

    Today Stace Huff and Mary Breshears join me for a conversation about New Year’s Resolutions. If you’ve struggled to follow through in the past and want to try and do it different this year, then I think that you’re going to find today’s podcast helpful.

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    If you have a question you'd like to hear our counselors address in a future podcast, send us an e-mail at abby.jay@tapestryassociates.com  

  • When Mom Needs a Break

    In today's podcast, Jeff talks with Sarah Collier and Stace Huff about the challenge of being a young mother and the importance of knowing when Mom needs to give herself a break. On the surface, “self-care” sounds like selfishness, but I think that as you listen to Stace and Sarah talk you’re going to see how self-care is critical to loving your children and spouse well.  Stace and Sarah have some great insights, as well as a wealth of practical suggestions for young Moms.

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  • Infertility and It's Effect on Marriage

    Infertility is hard. It is really hard. It can take a hold of every part of your being and your life. It can end your marriage. Often the issues that are already present in a marriage become bigger and more noticed when one or both of the partners are struggling with the unfulfilled desire to have a child. Partners are stretched to the limit in what they can give to support each other as they are working to address their own feelings of anxiety, sadness, and often times, anger. Both spouses can feel alone and abandoned by everyone. It may be one of the hardest times in a marriage. It can also be a time of growth and closeness that is unsurpassed.

    It takes a lot to work through the issues that present themselves when a couple finds themselves embroiled in the diagnosis and treatment for infertility. The many options alone can create discussions you may have never dreamed you would have. How do you deal with infertility? The options range from doing nothing all the way to adoption. What does God want you to do? What do you believe is the right thing to do? Does your spouse agree? Then there are the spiritual issuesssues of abandonment by God, guilt for feeling angry at every pregnant woman you see, and depression and anxiety that resurface after years of feeling as though you or your spouse conquered those issues!

    When you and your spouse begin the journey to conquer your infertility it is imperative that you also resolve to protect your hearts and your marriage.  Marriage counseling can be a valuable resource in this regard. A well-trained counselor can provide you a safe and consistent place to discuss the feelings that accompany this very stressful time. Counseling can also provide an opportunity for each partner to support the other while feeling like they are not on an island alone. Marriage counseling can also allow you and your spouse to focus on the task at hand, becoming parents, without ripping your marriage apart. When you are trying to become pregnant, you take care of your physical well-being so that you and your new baby can have a healthy start to your new life together.  In the same way, you need to care for your emotional and relational well-being so that you and your new baby can have a healthy home and family.  You must fight for yourself and your marriage during this time, as God works in you to bring you and your spouse closer and prepares you to enjoy the life that will fill your home.

     

  • The Baby Wars - Part 1

    It is early in the morning and your body has stolen from you yet again. You just knew this was going to be the month. You were finally pregnant, the battle was over. But once again, you have been denied your dream and as you reach under the sink your anger begins to boil in your soul, the tears come again and you are not sure you will have the strength to get through this day….just like last month.

    This battle with your body is taking a toll on you, it is beginning to make you hate yourself and even ashamedly other women who “can breath and get pregnant”. Can you take this anymore? Maybe you should just give up, accept that there will be no baby. You think this thought again and again, you begin to shake, cry, and scream at the reflection in the mirror. Then the overwhelming fear of truly accepting that fact riddles you with an anxiety that seems to flood your very being and you vow to beat this, you will get pregnant. You will stand on your head, only eat organic foods, do yoga, whatever it takes but no matter what there WILL be a baby. The endless research, reading, questioning of others consumes your life.

    This war between you and your body is exhausting, emotionally, physically, and socially. It is one that cannot be won without the Holy Spirit living in you and guiding you. God’s plan is bigger than yours but speaking from experience, it is hard to remember that every time you see a pregnant woman or a new baby. You must focus on the task at hand, give over your desire, needs, wants and plan of attack to God. It will in the end make your relationship with Him, your self, and others stronger, healthier, and more connected. The new found closeness will help you as you fight other battles in the Baby Wars. The battles between you and your spouse, your friends, and your God, but you must remember these are just battles in the war that will be won. You will overcome and live a full, happy life and with God’s will and grace one full of a little one’s laughter.

    -Stace Huff