The Tapestry Blog

  • Fear and Control

    Today Sarah Collier and Melissa King join me for a conversation about fear and control.  Across the course of my career, I have become convinced that controlling people are scared people.  If you’re bent toward control and that doesn’t immediately make sense to you, then I think you’ll find today’s show quite helpful.  

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  • The Importance of Solitude

    Today Stace Huff and Bev Elliott join me for a conversation about the challenge and importance of solitude.  Too often, the busyness of outer lives collaborates with the chaos of our inner lives to keep us moving and active.  However, when we fail to get alone and slow down, we not only rob ourselves of an important need, but we may fail to recognize internal warnings that alert us to future crises.  Today’s conversation is for everyone.  I hope you’ll be encouraged, challenged and guided by it.  


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  • The Rat Race of Performance

    Today Mary Breshears and Daniel Peeks join me for a conversation about performance.  I’m not sure about other metropolitan areas, but here in Metro-Atlanta, the culture is marked by a very busy pace of life and a good dose of “keeping up with the Jones”.  Success is often measured materially and - at least in appearance - by having a happy family.  So, its real easy to get sucked on that gerbil’s wheel where my identity and worth are defined by my success.  The subsequent dynamic that creates may create a recipe for material and social success, but across time it wreaks damage on the heart and soul.  So, if you struggle in this area - and we all do to some degree - i think you’ll find today’s show helpful.  

    The Rat Race of Performance

  • Watch Your Nonverbals Buddy!

    Today Bev Elliott and Stace Huff join me for a conversation about the significance of nonverbal communication.  Often, the most important aspect of communication in a marriage is the nonverbal communication.  Body posture, facial expression and tone betray emotions and attitudes which we may not even recognize we are experiencing.  In our conversation today, Bev and Stace will highlight the importance of making the implicit explicit when we engage with our spouse. 

    Watch Your Nonverbals, Buddy!

  • Childhood Depression and Anxiety

    Periods of sadness and anxiety are inevitable part of life, but when we watch our children struggling it can be heart-wrenching.  Today Sarah Collier and Melissa King join us for a conversation about childhood depression and anxiety.  Sarah and Melissa have some important insights to help parents better discern whether their child is just going through a momentary bout of sadness and anxiety like we all confront or whether they’re wrestling with something more disruptive.  I think that parents of both children and adolescents are going to find today’s show to be very helpful.  Besides a lot of insight, we’re also going to discuss some concrete things that you can do to better help your children through anxiety and depression.  

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  • Helping Children Through Divorce

    Although none of us expect our marriages to end in divorce, it still happens and the impact of it on our children can be far-reaching.  Although there's no way to forego the disruptive effect of divorce on children, today Stace Huff and Bev Elliott join me to offer some concrete advice for parents about helping children through the difficult process of divorce.  So, if you have recently gone through a divorce or are moving into a divorce, you won’t want to miss today’s show.  

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  • Understanding Emotion

    Today Stace Huff and Mary Breshears join me for a conversation about emotion. As a guy, I have to confess that I didn’t even know that I had a feeling – except for anger – until I was almost 30 years old. And it still took me another 10 years to figure out what to do with them. So, if you struggle with how to understand, process and manage your emotions – and don’t we all? - then I think you’re going to find today’s show to be very helpful.

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  • When Relationships Hurt

    Today Daniel Peeks and Bev Elliott join us for a conversation about relational traumas. In an intimate relationship, there are certain critical events which – although not necessarily recognized as damaging or traumatic at the time – a failure to heal that compromises trust and intimacy eventually exposes them to be relationally traumatic. An affair would be an obvious form of relational trauma. However, harsh or threatening words are spoken in the heat of anger, a failure to be physically or emotionally present for your spouse at a time of medical or emotional jeopardy or a sexual interaction occurring early in the relationship which one spouse experiences as coercive or forced could all be traumatic. And what one person or one couple experiences as traumatic may be very different from those experienced by another. On some level, both spouses may minimize the significance of these events, but they continue to come to the surface years and decades later. The wounding has gone deep and basic trust is broken. If you find yourself “stuck” on one of these events years after it happened or if you recognize some obstacle or wall blocking the level of trust and intimacy between you and your spouse, then I think you’re going to find today’s show to be very helpful.

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  • Empowering Your Kids

    Today Sarah Collier and Melissa King join me for a conversation about parenting during your child’s social crises. Whether its dealing with the bully, the mean girl or some other social hiccup that your child confronts, how a parent engages with their child can either bolster or frustrate their development. Although our mainstream culture is currently bent toward overprotecting children from even the slightest threat to their identity or worth, Melissa and Sarah have some great insights into the importance of neither over-protecting nor under-protecting your children. I think parents of any age child are going to find today’s conversation helpful.

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  • How NOT To Read Your Spouse's Mind

    Today Daniel Peeks and Stace Huff join me for a conversation about mind-reading in marriage. We know how much you hate it when your spouse presumes to know what you’re thinking and feeling during an argument… and sometimes they may be right… but more often they’re wrong. So, in today’s show Daniel and Stace offer some insights into how that happens, why its almost always destructive and how you can learn NOT to read your spouse’s mind. If you’re married and you’re human, I know that you’re going to find today’s conversation helpful.

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